tests: Fix race condition in postmaster/002_connection_limits

tests: Fix race condition in postmaster/002_connection_limits

The test occasionally failed due to unexpected connection limit errors being
encountered after having waited for FATAL errors on another connection. These
spurious failures were caused by the the backend reporting FATAL errors to the
client before detaching from the PGPROC entry. Adding a sleep(1) before
proc_exit() makes it easy to reproduce that problem.

To fix the issue, add a helper function that waits for postmaster to notice
the process having exited. For now this is implemented by waiting for the
DEBUG2 message that postmaster logs in that case. That's not the prettiest
fix, but simple. If we notice this problem elsewhere, it might be worthwhile
to make this more general, e.g. by adding an injection point.

Reported-by: Tomas Vondra 
Diagnosed-by: Heikki Linnakangas 
Reviewed-by: Heikki Linnakangas 
Tested-by: Tomas Vondra 
Discussion: https://postgr.es/m/ggflhkciwdyotpoie323chu2c2idpjk5qimrn462encwx2io7s@thmcxl7i6dpw